A high self esteem is crucial to have and the lack of it spells disaster. Like a career, it takes years to build and develop and one setback to make it fall apart.
How is your self-esteem for now? How do you value yourself? Do you curse at yourself or indulge in a fit of self pity? We all feel down in the dumps once in a while but feeling low frequently is not healthy and may lead to serious problems like depression.
There are many factors that can build and break your self esteem. It starts with how loved you feel at home, how accepted you are in your circle of friends, and how much you value yourself and the abilities you think you have. Eventually, when you grow up, your self-worth becomes defined and more constant and impacts how you think about yourself and how you treat others both in your work and relationships.
Optimism, independence, good relationships and resilience are traits that you need to develop a healthy self-image. If you aren’t so lucky to have all these, then, find ways to get them. If you have everything in tact, an emotional bomb will find it hard to break you.
Optimism is the key. Sure, life isn’t a bed of roses but you don’t have to feel so gloomy about it. You can’t always be what you want and have what you want. Your talents and good looks do not always take you to wonderland but surely, you have a purpose. You have worth. We all do. Try to re-evaluate your talents again and then think of resourceful ways that could allow you to use your skills and be successful. Be positive about things around you. Start fixing your weaknesses instead of whining about them. Sometimes, all you need is a little push, a few words of encouragement. What better way is there than to start with yourself!
Being independent can help you feel better. An independent person feels more confident and people will look at you admiringly. So, look and act the part.
It is important with whom you associate as it can affect your self-esteem. Man is a social being. As such, we constantly need to interact with others. We treasure our family, friends, colleagues and even what our enemies have to say about us. Unfortunately, what they say cannot be totally filtered out and it results, more often than not, to damaged self esteem. All battery–verbal, physical and emotional—have the impact of shattering our self esteem very quickly even when it has been carefully built up overtime.
Bouncing back after a fall is a must-do. Get back on your feet after a shattering experience whether it is the first heart break for a teenager or a shattering divorce for adults. You’re allowed to mope a few days but after that it is important that you fight back. It does not matter if you work on building it slowly so long as you are focused at getting your self esteem back into shape. Resilience is very important and the way to overcome the currents that threaten to sweep us away.
The importance of high self esteem is one thing that we cannot ignore as it is a cornerstone to a happy living. With healthy self esteem, you are most likely to be motivated to work and achieve your goals. You’ll be wearing the right attitude to be successful with more ease and therefore, you’ll have a fuller, purposeful life.
Finally, guarding your self-esteem is like watching out for falling debris! There are events, people and comments that come your way and crush your self-esteem. You have built your self-esteem for all the years of your life and you simply can’t allow one, stupid event or remark to get you down. The best way to do this is to know your self well, of what you’re capable and learn to cope when your self-esteem is threatened and your danger siren goes alerts you.
