Personal Development Challenges

If you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, the first thing you must do is try to determine what is causing your stress. If you don’t do this, you won’t really know what steps you should take to eliminate and manage your stress, so this is important. Sure, there are stress management techniques you can use, but wouldn’t you rather identify the source, so you can eliminate the problem completely, rather than trying to manage it’s symptoms? Because stress has such an impact on all of us, it is important to learn as much as we can about it so that we know how to handle our own stresses.

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A high self esteem is crucial to have and the lack of it spells disaster. Like a career, it takes years to build and develop and one setback to make it fall apart.

How is your self-esteem for now? How do you value yourself? Do you curse at yourself or indulge in a fit of self pity? We all feel down in the dumps once in a while but feeling low frequently is not healthy and may lead to serious problems like depression.

There are many factors that can build and break your self esteem. It starts with how loved you feel at home, how accepted you are in your circle of friends, and how much you value yourself and the abilities you think you have. Eventually, when you grow up, your self-worth becomes defined and more constant and impacts how you think about yourself and how you treat others both in your work and relationships.
Optimism, independence, good relationships and resilience are traits that you need to develop a healthy self-image. If you aren’t so lucky to have all these, then, find ways to get them. If you have everything in tact, an emotional bomb will find it hard to break you.

Optimism is the key. Sure, life isn’t a bed of roses but you don’t have to feel so gloomy about it. You can’t always be what you want and have what you want. Your talents and good looks do not always take you to wonderland but surely, you have a purpose. You have worth. We all do. Try to re-evaluate your talents again and then think of resourceful ways that could allow you to use your skills and be successful. Be positive about things around you. Start fixing your weaknesses instead of whining about them. Sometimes, all you need is a little push, a few words of encouragement. What better way is there than to start with yourself!

Being independent can help you feel better. An independent person feels more confident and people will look at you admiringly. So, look and act the part.
It is important with whom you associate as it can affect your self-esteem. Man is a social being. As such, we constantly need to interact with others. We treasure our family, friends, colleagues and even what our enemies have to say about us. Unfortunately, what they say cannot be totally filtered out and it results, more often than not, to damaged self esteem. All battery–verbal, physical and emotional—have the impact of shattering our self esteem very quickly even when it has been carefully built up overtime.

Bouncing back after a fall is a must-do. Get back on your feet after a shattering experience whether it is the first heart break for a teenager or a shattering divorce for adults. You’re allowed to mope a few days but after that it is important that you fight back. It does not matter if you work on building it slowly so long as you are focused at getting your self esteem back into shape. Resilience is very important and the way to overcome the currents that threaten to sweep us away.

The importance of high self esteem is one thing that we cannot ignore as it is a cornerstone to a happy living. With healthy self esteem, you are most likely to be motivated to work and achieve your goals. You’ll be wearing the right attitude to be successful with more ease and therefore, you’ll have a fuller, purposeful life.

Finally, guarding your self-esteem is like watching out for falling debris! There are events, people and comments that come your way and crush your self-esteem. You have built your self-esteem for all the years of your life and you simply can’t allow one, stupid event or remark to get you down. The best way to do this is to know your self well, of what you’re capable and learn to cope when your self-esteem is threatened and your danger siren goes alerts you.

Can you say too much about happiness? It is natural for human beings to want to be happy and to escape having a miserable life. We all yearn for the state of Happiness, a natural condition like the changing of the seasons. Our ignorance causes us to suffer, but it is unnatural to suffer. Happiness materializes from the wisdom that comes from the enjoyment of life and its pleasures.

To attain this perfect wisdom is to work to comprehend fully the purpose of life. It is important that we also realize completely the relationship of human beings to each other. It is our wish to put an end to all suffering and to escape every ill and evil that afflicts us. True understanding of what makes us happy is perfect wisdom and has the power to deliver limitless joy and happiness.

Why is it important for us to suffer in life? We lack the spiritual illumination that alone can light the way and enable us to move safely among the obstacles that lie before us. In the grand scheme that exists in nature, evolution forces us to move forward. As if we are moving through a dense jungle, we do not even see or suspect the presence of trouble until it suddenly leaps upon us like a tiger camouflaged by its evolutionary stripes.

One day we enjoy our family circle happy in its completeness. Perhaps soon, death will pay a visit and replace our joy with agony. Have you ever had a friend today that became an enemy tomorrow and we were left wondering why. It is possible to enjoy wealth and all material luxuries only to undergo a sudden change and be left only with poverty and misery. As we age, we begin our time with health and strength; but they depart and leave us wondering why. It is human nature to seek in vain for the reason why this has to be the way of life.

Along with the greater tragedies of life there are innumerable obstacles of lesser importance that continually cause us to suffer many little miseries and minor heartaches. In our desire to avoid them, we are surprised by them when they arise and in the darkness of our ignorance we stumble upon them. Our worldly knowledge prevents us from using spiritual illumination that would enable us to enjoy a panoramic view giving us the power to see the hidden causes of human suffering and reveal to us their existence so that we are able to avoid them.

If we were to reach illumination in our evolutionary journey, then the travel through life could be made both comfortable and swift. Our lack of spiritual site makes us pass through life as if it were a complicated maze with obstacles in our path that block our way and filled with twists and turns that we cannot foresee. The result leaves us with bruises and our progress is slow and painful. If we were blessed with spiritual illumination, we could then make the same journey quickly enjoying perfect safety and comfort.

Almost everyone have heard the hit single ‘Don’t Worry, Be Happy’ by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferin’s simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

One of the better things ever said is – ‘The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change’, and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with

Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can do this.

Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can’t start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.

A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.

Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -’Laughter is the best medicine’.

Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.

Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.

Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.

Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.

And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”